7 habits of highly effective relationships....

In my opinion there are 7 basic issues that come up in relationships that can make or break them.
1.Religion: This is a prime issue its not about organised religion - ie Chritianity Vs. Judaism its about the basic belief or non-belief in G-d. Having the same belief system even if its spirituality or even athesiam. I find that 2 people who have totally different belief systems tend to clash because you cant share or have a discussion and it usually ends up in an arguement.
2. Sex: We all like sex? but some of us have higher drives than others....We also tend to like different things for example you like sado masochism and your lover likes it gentle and slow and romantic, or you want it 5 times a week and your partner only wants it once a week for an hour - THE RELATIONSHIP IS SCREWED ...literally!
3. Family: This is a nice one - for instance you are not very close to your family and they dont live near you in fact they live in the next city. Your lover / partner is close to their family and wants to see them alot and want you to go with visit them too. This creates a problem particularly if you are gay and your family has no interest in your life or your lover!
4. Finance: This difference comes in to play when there is a difference between the amounts that you earn - this has to be negotiated. Will it be on equal footing where both people contribute or will one enevitably be dependant on the other?
5. Dreams: Working towards goals and dreams together and having your lover / partner not sharing this or at least getting excited about them. Do we meet in the middle or would we prefer that your partner joins you and shares them with you?
6. Children: When one person doesnt want kids and the other does. Not every person wants little versions of themselves or can afford to have them. With straight people mistakes happen with gay people we have to plan very carefully according to the status of pockets and relationships.
7. Hobbies and Interests: This is a minor difference - but I would like to share at least some interests with my lover if not all of them so that we can do stuff together. The things that are different I would at least like to learn about. for example - you enjoy watching comedies and laugh at Austin Powers and they are into intense murder mysteries and look at you strangley and half bored when you are watching your movies.
For me? I enjoy someone that JUST GETS ME