I have just realized that I am getting married in 6 months and there is so much to organize! so much to think about!
Weddings and festivities seem to bring out the best and worst in people. I have already had a fight with my sister, about to give the rest of my family a invitation and an ultimatum, as you can imagine being a lesbian is o.k. as long as no-one knows about it and its not announced to the world, which is precisely what I am doing, announcing to the world that I love my girl!
There is something very powerful about proclaiming your intentions in front the people in your life.
Getting married is a great excuse to throw a big party and have a lot of fun!
Planning a straight wedding is one thing there are rules, and procedures that have been followed for centuries.
But how does one plan a gay / lesbian wedding?
Is there a best man? or best woman? does someone wear the suit and someone the dress?
if you are not a virgin do you have to wear white?
What about the venue, if we arrange it at a formal location, will they be open to a whole bunch of gay and lesbian hooligans and a lesbian wedding ceremony on their premises.
Will the staff of the venue snigger behind our backs?
if the photographer is male as they generally are, he get a hard on by taking photos of two lesbians kiss?
What do you do about a first dance? who leads if neither of you are butch nor femme?
Does one throw a bouquet or a garter?
What does one do with a bachelor or a hen party? Do we have one together? do we have one separately so that the guys that are invited don’t feel left out.
One thing that I have learnt, communicate with your fiance and learn to negotiate!
Personally I think we should run off to Las Vegas come home to a family dinner and say "pass the salt, we got married"!
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