BRIDEZILLA and her project plan!

I found this 6 month plan on the internet which is fab!

Six Months in Advance of Your Lesbian Wedding:
* Pick a date
* Tell Friends and Family of your intentions
* Throw an Engagement Party
* Begin Notebook or other organization system to keep track of estimates, ideas and to-do lists.
* Make a guest list
* Plan theme or tone of wedding
* Hire Wedding Planner (if you're using one)
* Make a preliminary Budget
* Meet with potential officiants
* Meet with lawyer to draw up paperwork -- especially in places that do not have gay marriage or civil unions.
* Visit potential locations for ceremony and reception and sign contract (Note popular places are often booked more than one year in advance.)
* Visit a bridal show or start getting estimates for
1. Florist
2. Caterer
3. Photographer or videographer
4. DJ or Musicians
5. Invitation printing

Three to Four Months before Your Lesbian Wedding:
* Order wedding invitations
* Send "save the date" announcements to out of town guests
* Shop for and buy wedding rings
* Decide what you're going to wear and order wedding dresses, tuxes, or special outfits
* Shop for and taste wedding cakes
* Register for Gifts
* Reserve limos if you're going to use them
* Arrange for accommodations for out of town guests
* Reserve wedding night room for bride & bride
* Decide on wedding party members
* Choose and set menu with caterer
* Sign contracts with photographer, florist, DJ or musicians
* Start planning honeymoon

Two to Three Months Before Your Lesbian Wedding:
* Mail invitations
* Write vows
* Attend bridal shower
* Finalize ceremony with officiant
* Order wedding cake
* Schedule wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
* Purchase wedding attire
* If you're going to change your names, file paperwork

One to Two Months Before Your Lesbian Wedding:
* Work out music selection with DJ
* Finalize ceremony
* Finalize honeymoon plans
* Meet with photographer to plan shot list
* Buy gifts for attendants
* Confirm menu and number of guests with caterer
* Apply for marriage license, civil union certificate or domestic partnership paperwork
* Send thank you cards as gifts come in
* Contact any guests who have not RSVPed

The Last Two Weeks Before Your Lesbian Wedding:
* Make sure your still want to get married (kidding!)
* Reconfirm all arrangements, including times of set-up and delivery with music, photographer, caterers, wedding site and car service
* Write and rehearse toasts for rehearsal dinner and wedding dinner
* Finalize honeymoon plans, including arranging pet sitting, etc while gone
* Assign day of wedding responsibilities to your wedding party
* Attend rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
* Try on your wedding attire and make sure it all still fits
* Do something special for yourself, like a manicure or massage
* Try to get sleep, so you're rested for the big day

The Wedding day:
* Walk down the aisle
* Live happily ever after!

Help! I'm turning into BRIDEZILLA!!

I have just realized that I am getting married in 6 months and there is so much to organize! so much to think about!

Weddings and festivities seem to bring out the best and worst in people. I have already had a fight with my sister, about to give the rest of my family a invitation and an ultimatum, as you can imagine being a lesbian is o.k. as long as no-one knows about it and its not announced to the world, which is precisely what I am doing, announcing to the world that I love my girl!

There is something very powerful about proclaiming your intentions in front the people in your life.

Getting married is a great excuse to throw a big party and have a lot of fun!

Planning a straight wedding is one thing there are rules, and procedures that have been followed for centuries.

But how does one plan a gay / lesbian wedding?

Is there a best man? or best woman? does someone wear the suit and someone the dress?
if you are not a virgin do you have to wear white?

What about the venue, if we arrange it at a formal location, will they be open to a whole bunch of gay and lesbian hooligans and a lesbian wedding ceremony on their premises.
Will the staff of the venue snigger behind our backs?

if the photographer is male as they generally are, he get a hard on by taking photos of two lesbians kiss?

What do you do about a first dance? who leads if neither of you are butch nor femme?

Does one throw a bouquet or a garter?

What does one do with a bachelor or a hen party? Do we have one together? do we have one separately so that the guys that are invited don’t feel left out.

One thing that I have learnt, communicate with your fiance and learn to negotiate!

Personally I think we should run off to Las Vegas come home to a family dinner and say "pass the salt, we got married"!